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From Dreams to Burnout and Back: Reflections on My 11-Year Academic Journey

It’s hard to believe, but I've spent more than 11 years at university. My plan was to earn a PhD—the ultimate proof of a would-be...

Malika Mamytova

Oct 29, 2024

Navigating Workplace Politics with Confidence

In every workplace, there’s an unspoken game being played: workplace politics. Whether we like it or not, politics is a part of every...

Malika Mamytova

Oct 22, 2024

The Power of Choice in Therapy and Workplace

This "client-specialist-sponsor" triangle can sometimes create unexpected challenges, which is why any mental health should be voluntary.

Malika Mamytova

Oct 17, 2024

Brutal HR Facts Everyone Needs To Remember

Navigating the modern workplace can often feel like a juggling act—balancing performance, relationships, and your own well-being. Whether...

Malika Mamytova

Oct 15, 2024

This post collected thousands of saves. RIP US TikTok, you were fun - aaaand welcome back.

I made it at lunch. Seems like Spotify also didn’t put too much effort in this year’s results 😅 #wrapped #spotify #hr

Sunday = meme day #corporategirlie #immigrant

Therapy/trainings on emotional intelligence/other helping practices with external specialists are needed so that the internal caregiver and the internal neutral observer can be included more often in the internal dialogue, which will allow you to rely less on an outsider and more on yourself.

I am against long-term intensive therapy.

In most cases (not in all, of course, it seems to me, about 70-80% of cases) 6-12 months are enough, and then support and a request for help are needed only in new life circumstances.

#hr #therapy #helpingpractices

My Roman Empire - comments from HR communities where they "ventilate" and splash out emotions to receive help and support.
HR sometimes becomes the subject of ridicule in the Russian-speaking IT segment, but it seems to me that it is quite easy to enter there. Well, the screenshots prove that not everything is as it seems 🙃

What I think about this:
- HR often hires graduates of the psychology department or business management, so a diploma or minor in these specialties will definitely be useful, although not required.
- Entry-level courses in CIPD / SHRM and other associations themselves only structure information, but do not provide real experience, although they help enter the community and establish a network of weak connections.
- A reliable way is to enter through positions in HR Admin / Office teams. Internal transfer of a candidate who already knows the company is sometimes an easier and more desirable option than hiring from outside, and there is also an opportunity to learn from HRD/HRBP by helping them.

The last slide is especially painful 💔
#hr #hrbp #breakingintohr #psych #burnout

According to a 2023 study, a direct supervisor has a greater impact on psychological well-being (69%) than a personal doctor (51%) or psychotherapist (41%).

Indeed, we usually meet with therapists once a week, and with a doctor, it’s good if once a month, but we interact with our immediate manager almost every day.

Knowing yourself is extremely important, especially from the point where we understand what our desires/traits/triggers/patterns are, and therefore, with what kind of person the union will be better and more productive.

I hope you have such knowledge, and if not, dm your questions 💙

Hugs!

#manager #leadership #9to5

How to be happy?

Some people approach this question from a scientific point of view, some even study happiness as a scientific phenomenon. Imagine, a research institute on happiness, how does that sound, huh?

A scientific approach to happiness is not new - at least at St. Petersburg State University - back in 2016 I met Professor Ronald Inglehart, who studied the phenomenon of happiness and its relationship with economic factors in different countries with a large study from 1981 to 2007 (spoiler, after reaching a certain level of income, the connection between the feeling of happiness and material goods no longer grows proportionally. For example, if before reaching the level of 70k dollars of income per year, many respondents noted the statement “the more money, the happier I am” to be true, after reaching this amount, money could no longer influence the subjective feeling of happiness, even if the amount increased significantly in size (this is very general, there was a much more elegant and large-scale design of the study).

There is also a very interesting author, originally from Russia, but now lives and teaches in California - Sonya Lyubomirsky, author of “The How of Happiness” (“How to Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Achieving the Life You Want”).

According to Sonya:
50% of our happiness is determined by genetics (twin studies are probably my favorite ones),
10% depends on our environment, and the remaining
40% is our self-control.

Many of her thoughts are as simple as they are effective. For example, instead of focusing on “I will be happy when… (get married/get a promotion/lose weight),” focus on “What ALREADY brings me joy?”.

Or my favorite is to remember that we are not objects, but subjects of reality, and that we create our own experience: both negative and positive.

To be honest, I am not a big supporter of the concept of happiness as applied in my life. Learning to be satisfied with your life, to be able to feel joy - this is much easier to learn than the cumbersome “happiness,” which belongs in scientific concepts and articles.

#happiness #psychologist #psychologistonline #peopleoperations #hr #jomo

How to get to know business psychology better?

I am sharing a selection of books that we read at the university (and which I still sometimes refer to).

This list does not include books about general psychology, but rather about business, about the development and flourishing of companies and what is needed for this in working with people.

There are books that provide few tools, but form a mindset, without which it is difficult to be a BP.

Some books explore sciences at the intersection - for example, Manfred Kets de Vries mapped psychopathology and C-level managers/directors - if you suspect that your boss is a narcissist, then I highly recommend reading this book.

- Blanchard K. Leadership to the Heights of Success
- Morozova G. Psychological support of the organization and personnel
- Ulrich D. Effective personnel management. The New Role of the HR Manager in the Organization
- Welch D., Welch S. Answers to 74 Questions about Modern Business
- Schaufeli V., Dijkstra P., Ivanova T. Passion for Work: How to Learn to Love Your Job and Enjoy It
- Collins D. "From Good to Great."
- Manfred Kets de Vries "The Mysticism of Leadership
- Welch D., Byrne D. "My Years at GE"
- Cialdini R. "Psychology of Influence."
- Meyer E. "The Culture Map."

I still have a list of about 50 books and autobiographies that I want to recommend - write me a PM, I'll share.

#psychologist #hrbp

Why blog?

Requests come to me by word of mouth.
So I created this page not for promotion, but rather as an information portal. Finding "your" consultant can take time, and the specialist's materials give at least a vague understanding of their personality and (I hope) save time and effort.

That's why I write here when:
- life is eventful and I just want to share
- questions in dm are often repeated, and I need to put another piece in the "Work with me" box
- I want to share important announcements or somethings that I find fascinating/useful

That's why I need a blog :)

What else can you pay attention to when choosing a psychologist/consultant/coach:
- How comfortable are you in interaction?
- Do you feel that you are heard, understood?
- Do they ask you questions that help you better understand the situation/emotions?
- Do they give you unsolicited advice/recommendations?
- Do they discuss rules/agreements (especially at the very beginning)?
- Do they accept you as you are, do you feel judged/evaluated?
- Do you have somatic symptoms (fatigue, problems with appetite and sleep)? I do not work with depression/other disorders - but during the introduction I can help to pay attention to symptoms and share contacts of colleagues whom I trust and to whom I can refer - psychiatrists, endocrinologists and neurologists.
- Do you see the result - do you discuss the criteria for success, goals and evaluate the effectiveness of the joint work together?

Hope this helps, hugs!

#hr #consultant #psychologist #hrbp

In my work, the concept of "sponsor" sometimes comes up.

A company that hires a psychologist is a sponsor. A significant adult who comes to a child psychologist with a request to work with a child is a sponsor.

This "client-specialist-sponsor" triangle can sometimes give unpleasant surprises, so any ethical code of any type of therapy will necessarily stipulate that the work is voluntary.

Because most often it is the parent who needs to work with the psychologist, not the child. And it is the manager, not the employee, who needs to work on their soft skills.

So, the results will come only when the client makes a choice - to change something, to go to a psychologist/coach/to a group.

I came to therapy seven years ago, despite the fact that at that time I was already in my third year of a bachelor's degree in psychology 🌝

But only after three years of study did I dare to make a choice in favor of practice, and not just theory. This is how my journey in therapy began: sometimes with bumps, sometimes like a roller coaster - with adrenaline and delight, and sometimes smooth and peaceful.

So, my message today: if you are thinking about working with a psychologist/consultant, but have mixed feelings - this is normal. You can be afraid (all psychologists once started, everyone made mistakes, the client-psychologist relationship is a big risk and requires courage), you may not accept the specialist or their approach, the main thing is that the decision to start working will belong to you, and not the sponsor.

#psychology #psychologistonline

Letting go of control without losing control is the main request in the last year.

Allowing events to happen.

Allowing someone to feel exactly the way they feel, and not otherwise.

This is a difficult task for those who had many moments in childhood where they had to urgently become an adult and take control of the situation.

I want to say to everyone who feels the same way: I hug you. It is difficult and terribly disgusting, to the point of grinding teeth - to let go. It is scary.

But you are not alone. And you will receive the help that you need. And support. You are your own biggest ally.

In 2022, I want to relax the internal reins and at the same time, oddly enough, strengthen the discipline of zen.

#personal

Year in review: changed location for publications.

I won't write anything else, because I'm tired of the struggle between "let's tell what's going on" and "let's do it 100% efficiently and usefully."

I'm letting go of myself and writing as it is and as best I can.

And you, let go of yourself too. Better hug yourself, pat yourself on the head and say "well done, my dear" (insert the right word of support).

You've done enough. As much as you could and wanted to do at that time.

And if you still want to snap at yourself, you can show your teeth at a consultation.

Happy New Year! 🎄

#psychology

I like myself here ☺️

Great experience, @hrapiconf!
Thank you for inviting me to talk about my work ❤️

#hr #hrspecialist #hrbp #conflictmediation

The purpose of a guru is to eventually show you that you don't need a guru.
Alan Watts

We all have a blind spot on our retina - an area that is insensitive to light.

The nerve fibers from the visual receptors to the blind spot go over the retina and gather into the optic nerve, which passes through the retina to its other side, and therefore there are no light-sensitive receptors in this place.

The blind spot allows us to have high image resolution and see the world brightly.

And so that the blind spot does not interfere with composing a complete picture, our eye is constantly moving: it fills in the gaps.

For me, this is a mechanism that sometimes works in life as well. There is a topic that you know very well, you can tell others about, help. But you do not see yourself and can't apply that knowledge to your situation.

And what is this, what kind of tension, what kind of internal conflict?

A psychologist helps to untangle this tangle of nerves - to find connections, threads, to finally see this blind spot.

And the tension releases. And the picture is restored. The movement is complete, the picture is filled.

It becomes easier to breathe.

#personal #consultation #psychology

The desire for the cool job that you’re passionate about is a particularly modern and bourgeois phenomenon—and, as we’ll see, a means of elevating a certain type of labor to the point of desirability that workers will tolerate all forms of exploitation for the “honor” of performing it. The rhetoric of “Do you what you love, and you’ll never work another day in your life” is a burnout trap. By cloaking the labor in the language of “passion,” we’re prevented from thinking of what we do as what it is: a job, not the entirety of our lives.
Anne Helen Petersen, Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation
#burnout #psychology #hr

Introduction Post 🌻

Hi! My name is Mali, and I am a psychologist and People Partner (HR Business Partner).
Here, I share my experiences, talk about my work, counseling, and self-support methods.
I have been working in psychology for over twelve years, having studied in Kyrgyzstan, Russia, and the USA.
Currently, I work as an HR BP in an IT company in Cyprus, but I also like to share my thoughts and researches in the blog.
For me, People Operations is about creating processes and an atmosphere where employees can comfortably and easily achieve their goals. My education in social psychology (bachelor's and master's degrees) and experience in various areas of PeopleOps (consulting, training, facilitation, recruiting) help me with this.

Welcome 🌺

#hrlimassol #hr #hr #hrbp #peopleoperations #psychology #psychology

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ABOUT MALIKA

As experienced HR consultant and HR Business Partner, I offer personalized consultations that help improve workplace dynamics for both businesses and employees.

With a focus on balancing work and wellness, I provide practical and applicable advice.

In personal vlogs, I also search for the way to share my knowledge, work and personal experience to build "slow life", encouraging a more mindful and productive work and life environment.

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HAPPY IN CORPORATE

From Dreams to Burnout and Back: Reflections on My 11-Year Academic Journey

Navigating Workplace Politics with Confidence

The Power of Choice in Therapy and Workplace

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