The Power of Choice in Therapy and Workplace

In my work, the concept of a "sponsor" often comes up.

A company that hires a psychologist is a sponsor. A parent who brings a child to therapy is a sponsor.

This "client-specialist-sponsor" triangle can sometimes create unexpected challenges, which is why any ethical therapy must be voluntary.

Often, it's not the child who needs help, but the parent. And it's the manager, not the employee, who needs to improve their soft skills.

True results come only when the client decides to change—whether it's seeking a psychologist, coach, or support group.

I started therapy seven years ago, despite already being in my third year of a psychology degree. But it took me three more years to choose practice over theory. That’s when my therapy journey began—sometimes with bumps, sometimes like a roller coaster full of adrenaline and delight, and other times smooth and peaceful.

So, my message today: if you're considering working with a psychologist or consultant but feel conflicted, know that it's normal. Fear is part of the process (every psychologist has been a beginner, every client-therapist relationship involves risk). The most important thing is that the decision to start comes from you, not the sponsor.

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Recommendations for managers:

As a manager, it’s crucial to remember that growth starts with self-awareness. While it’s tempting to focus on improving your team’s performance, real change often begins with your own leadership approach. Take time to reflect on how your communication, management style, and emotional intelligence affect the workplace. Working on your soft skills can create a healthier environment where your team feels empowered and supported.

Recommendations for employees:

If you’re an employee feeling like your development is being overlooked, remember that your personal growth is your responsibility, too. Advocate for your own learning and self-improvement. Whether it’s building resilience, improving communication, or honing leadership skills, investing in your own growth can lead to more fulfilling career opportunities. Don't wait for permission—take ownership of your path.

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Movies to Watch:

Good Will Hunting (1997) – This film perfectly illustrates the client-specialist-sponsor dynamic. Will is the client, his therapist Sean (Robin Williams) is the specialist, and the "sponsors" are the professors and friends who push him to seek help. The key to Will’s progress is his personal decision to engage in therapy, not just the pressure from those around him.

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A Beautiful Mind (2001) – In this biographical drama, John Nash (the client) struggles with schizophrenia. His wife, Alicia, serves as a supportive "sponsor," seeking treatment for him. Nash's therapist and doctor (the specialists) work with him, but the breakthrough only happens when Nash personally chooses to confront his condition.

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The King’s Speech (2010) – King George VI is the client, his speech therapist Lionel Logue is the specialist, and his wife, Queen Elizabeth, is the sponsor who pushes him to seek help for his speech impediment. The movie shows how real progress is made once George personally commits to the process.

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